Leslie Vernick
Are You Ready To CONQUER Your Fears?
If you’ve been confused about what constitutes a destructive relationship I hope you’ve gotten clear descriptions, felt heard and encouraged, and received some fresh ways of thinking about what you can do to grow and heal.

If you’re a people helper or curious bystander, I trust you now understand that God has some critical things to say about the way we treat people and his plan to heal destructive relationships.

However, in 30 plus years of working with hundreds of women and men, couples and families in destructive relationships, I know that it takes more than mere informational truth to really heal:


  • You need transformational truth specific to ONLY women.
  • You also need some specific tools to take what you’re learning so you can apply them to your particular situation.  

But no one can do this all alone. You need other supportive women who know what your life is like to walk along beside you.

  • You don’t need people who question the validity of your story, or clobber you with Bible verses that God hates divorce or to turn the other cheek one more time.
  • You do need people who are caring and compassionate. People who are strong and wise enough to know the whole counsel of God and who will give you a little nudge now and then so you don’t get stuck in your anger or pain so that you keep moving forward.

To create the shifts and transformations you’re looking for, it’s best to receive this help in small bites. I bet like me, you are on information overload these days. When you learn too much information too fast, you will often find yourself paralyzed and unable to take specific action because you feel overwhelmed.


If you want to stop dancing the destructive dance, you will need to take some steps in a new direction and I find most people need extra help learning to walk those steps out.


As a woman for example you need specific words and phrases to say when you need to speak up for yourself. You need to learn how to set good boundaries, and get specific strategies in implementing appropriate consequences as well as know when and how to put them in place.


You need help understanding what you are responsible for and what you are not responsible for and how to communicate with people in clear, firm, yet loving ways. You also need to know how to form more mutual relationships. Or, how to stop overfunctioning or underfunctioning.


How to be less dependent and to develop the strength to say No when you need to without cowering under the fear that someone might be disappointed or angry with you.


I also know that everyone who needs extra help can’t always afford personal one on one coaching. But I would still love the opportunity to continue our work together. Therefore I want to let you know about a new growth and support group.


CONQUER - a women's only group - will give you just the continued small bite learning environment I talked about. In addition you will be a part of an on-going support group with other individuals who know what your life is like, plus you’ll have regular contact with me, which will help you achieve your growth and healing goals – all for less than a Starbucks a day. Sound amazing?! It is, and I’m very excited about it.  

CONQUER is an opportunity for you and I to regularly connect through video, through a private support group and by telephone each month so that you can gain clarity, confidence, courage, as well as some tools in moving beyond stuck and into freedom.  

This program comes from the verse in the Bible that says, “In all these things (hardships of life) we are more than conquerors through him who loved us. (Romans 8:27) That’s what it says, but we don't’ always feel like that do we? Instead we often feel conquered by life and by other people.

CONQUER was created to help you conquer your own inner demons of fear, shame, and insecurity. It will teach you how to identify and conquer the habits and behaviors that keep you stuck, the negative emotions like bitterness and resentment you need to shake, and the chronic relationships issues that repeat themselves over and over and over again.  

CONQUER will help you get out of your own way in places that seems to big, too hard, or too overwhelming to tackle all by yourself.

This group will teach you how to CONQUER that big elephant in your life, one bite at a time.  

What Others Have Said...
"I have heard it said-the best way to eat an elephant is one bite at a time. My marriage has been a huge elephant to me. When I first began to understand the destruction and then “see” my part, it was overwhelming. Coaching with Leslie was invaluable in beginning my journey to health and I have found CONQUER to be such an asset in continuing growth. In CONQUER she has broken the journey down into manageable bites. Leslie has produced helpful videos along with handouts including action points to keep me persistently working on various aspects of my CORE. The goal is helping us to “conquer” the things that keep us stuck. My friend and I are both enrolled and meet weekly to discuss our progress, hold one another accountable, and pray through our journey together. "  
"This group has been a blessing from God at the worst time of my life. The support has been phenomenal from women who truly understand what you're going through. The fact that Leslie even responds to facebook posts is amazing. The monthly calls have been a tremendous help to me and now there is a second call. These phone calls are truly a wonderful counseling session. I am helped so much by Leslie's answers to each woman's question as it always seems to apply to my life too. I am so grateful Leslie makes sure she answers everyone even though the call lasts longer than planned. I feel that Leslie's wisdom, compassion, and Christian heart is displayed on each phone call. I am thankful she has made all of this available no matter where you live. - Wanda"
"Oh my goodness – CONQUER is so encouraging! It is absolutely just what I needed! I hear condemnation all the time from my husband and it used to keep me stuck in the trying harder cycle which did not lead to victory. Now I will focus on that victory circle. Thank you for CONQUER! - Pamela"
"I personally joined CONQUER to continue to grow and strengthen my CORE - or emotional and spiritual health - while staying well in my marriage. Before CONQUER, I had been recovering well from the effects of my spouse's destructive behaviors. However, I believed CONQUER would equip me more and be an environment to practice what I've learned and share it with others. The CONQUER program did just that. It did not disappoint.
The videos have been fantastic! I've grown immensely in my CORE strengths because of them. They are short in length yet rich in content. The study guides that accompany them are concise yet comprehensive.
I've learned so much from listening to the monthly conference calls. The guest counselors have been amazing! Their wealth of information is priceless; their perspectives, refreshing! I love hearing the gentle yet wise counsel Leslie gives to the callers, as well as the intentional time she takes with each one. I not only appreciate how she ministers to the callers in her responses, but also how she counsels the listeners at the same time. I feel privileged to be under the teaching and training of Leslie Vernick. The CONQUER calls are a help and comfort to me.
Today, I am no longer that wounded woman in a withering relationship, thanks to CONQUER and the work of the Holy Spirit. I was wonderfully made, and I am wonderfully restored (and so was my marriage, although both are "works in progress")! I am a woman of worth - a warrior - better equipped for emotional and spiritual battle in this world. I am not crushed by my fears; I conquer my fears. I am not defeated by my circumstances; I am victorious, because I've learned to conquer, not cower.
Thank you, CONQUER! None of this would ever be possible without my Lord and Savior Jesus Christ.
Thank You, God! - Shellie"
When you join CONQUER here is what you will receive each month:
Weekly Videos:
Two short teaching video’s on a specific topic along with handouts for you to immediately take small action steps to help you put into practice what you’ve learned.

For example the very first week you’ll get a video on how to move beyond believing you are helpless to change anything. I’ll give you 3 specific things you can do this week to change that belief. The second week you’ll learn how to see what’s happening to you – both inside and outside more clearly because you can’t change something you do not or cannot see.
Monthly Q & A Sessions:
One 90 minute group telephone call on the last Tuesday of the month (7:30-9pm ET) on a private conference line where you will be able to ask me your questions or share your challenges as you apply your new tools in your relationships. 
Even if all you do is listen to me coach others who ask their questions, it will empower you to grow, think in new ways, feel stronger and more capable to handle your own life. Each phone session will be recorded so you can listen again or if you had to come late or leave early you won’t miss a word.  
Special Access to Submit Questions
Special access to me to submit your questions. I will incorporate these questions into my teaching time.
A Woman's Only Secret Facebook Group
A private Facebook group forum where you can share and get support each day. I personally check in and participate in this forum several times per week.

The price to join CONQUER is $27.00 per month. This is a woman's only membership. The price may change in future offerings. However, for as long as you maintain your monthly membership your price remains $27.00 per month. You can also pay for 12 months in advance, which will give you two (2) months free. You would pay $270 instead of $324 .


Leslie Vernick is committed to ensuring the highest level of confidentiality for any and all information shared by individuals within her support groups. However, please be advised that in certain situations involving litigation, disclosure of certain information shared in support groups may be required by the court. While Leslie will protect this group to the furthest extent permitted by law, rules of confidentiality and disclosure vary from state to state. For further information, contact a local attorney in your county and state