Leslie Vernick
 
Moving Beyond People Pleasing:
Learn to Say No and Set Boundaries
 
 
I’m so glad you’re interested in my online course on Moving Beyond People Pleasing: Learn to Say No and Set Boundaries.
 
You Need to Participate In This Group IF...
You say regularly say YES when you really want to say NO
You often give more in your relationships than you receive
You over-function and act like it’s okay for otherds to under-function (but secretly resent it)
You fear conflict
You dread disapproval
You are tired of living for the approval of others
You feel manipulated and used but don’t know how to stop it
 

What Past Students Are Saying

I've been in counseling (marriage counseling) for 4 years and I've learned more in this course than all those counseling sessions! Thank you Leslie! May God bless you!

 

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Most importantly, in my marriage, I am becoming more direct in expressing what I want to do at any given time and what I don't want to do. For example, I've been extremely busy getting ready for the new school year and have been in meeting/workshops for the last week. My husband is home most of the time because he is in between projects. A couple of weeks ago, I planned on meeting a friend for dinner about 5:00 for last Thursday. When I told husband to tell him that I was meeting with her, but he sounded a little disappointed because he had been home all day. After hanging up, I almost canceled my plans with her, but pushed myself to keep them. I am staying more positive, knowing that taking care of me is important.

 

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The course was extremely helpful, mostly because it confirmed that my behaviors and decisions were dictated by pleasing others and the fear that I could be rejected. A very simple example of a small change was in my profession. I am a teacher and am teaching a different grade level in middle school. When asked via email from a committee chair for volunteers for a new chairman and treasurer, I didn't respond in my usual way. I politely declined and said that I would help in any way possible, but that I couldn't take on another responsibility. I did not obsess over how the others would think of me. Not my responsibility because I know that I am doing the right thing for me.

 

 

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I'm divorced after four years of separation and tomorrow would have been the 35th wedding anniversary. It was not just a difficult marriage, but a destructive one. Leaving my abusive marriage was the bravest thing God enabled me to do and the books and resources helped me validate my decision - though in the end, my husband filed for divorce after agreeing to a disillusionment and a week before our son was married. This, too, confirmed who he was! I also learned that the reasons behind saying yes, when the answer I should be giving is no- fear of man being a snare, not just that I don't want to hurt the persons feelings.

 
  Here's what you will receive for participating:
 
E-Notebook
E-Notebook
An e-notebook written by Leslie just for this group. This e-notebook will help you to understand your fears, how to speak up for yourself when you need to as well as understanding what healthy boundaries are and how to establish them.
 
 
Spotlight
Secret Facebook Group
A members only group where you can ask questions, get support and stay encouraged.                  
 
Spotlight
Handout
You receive a detailed handout so that you can take notes with each video segment to help you put into practice what you are learning.
 
 
Details:
 
You will have access to three teaching modules. Each module will contain several short video teachings, a transcript, handout and homework. 

 

Module 1: This module will help you understand why you say yes you want to, or should say NO?  In this module you will learn the high price of being too nice and what is really going on in your heart when you say yes compulsively. You will learn about the idols of the heart and how to pray a prayer of surrender.

 

Module 2: This module will help you understand who you are and how to become uniquely you instead of trying to be who other people want you to be. You will learn how grow to be more the person God calls you to be including stewarding wisely your resources of time, energy, money and talents. Leslie will also show you how to have a conversation with those who you are currently in relationship with to let them know how you are changing so that your new assertiveness doesn't come as a surprise.  

 

Module 3: In this module you will understand the difference between a biblical peacemaker and a peacekeeper or peacefaker. Leslie will show you how to use your voice to be more assertive, resolve conflict, speak up for yourself, and how to set effective boundaries. You will also learn how to handle the disappointment, disapproval and anger of others when you start saying no and they aren't happy.  

 

 

BONUS Teaching Video - I will send you a special bonus teaching on Moving Beyond Broken Trust - to give you the steps to heal when you trust is broken and what is the right way to rebuild it.  

 

 

Leslie Vernick is committed to ensuring the highest level of confidentiality for any and all information shared by individuals within her private FB  support groups and all participation is voluntary. However, please be advised that in certain situations involving litigation, disclosure of certain information shared in on-line support groups may be subpoenaed by the court. While Leslie will protect this group to the furthest extent permitted by law, rules of confidentiality and disclosure vary from state to state. For further information, contact a local attorney in your county and state

 

 
 
 
 
Enter your name and email below to get all the information. The cost of class is $197